Everything and nothing
This post will just be about random things I remember… or things I want to address…
#1 Third mainland bridge repairs during our trip to Nigeria
I didn’t think it would affect me much as I lived on the island and didn’t have a lot of business on the island.. other than the fact that my husband to be (at that point) lived on the island plus we wanted to take two of my English friends that came to Nigeria for the wedding sight-seeing on the island. The traffic was horrendous. On one occasion, we were taking my friends to Jakande market or chinese market or whatever it is called in Lekki, it took us 3 hours to get there whereas it would only take us an hour to get home or just under. It was such a task. Good luck to those who still need to go through that. I hope they finish the works soon.
#2 Toilet matters
If you are eating, please skip this point, if you read on, do so at your own peril. I am tired of going to the ladies toilet and finding the bowl in a mess. It is disgusting. These same ladies are the ones that will be walking around like babe. If you are too posh to flush the toilet, please be too posh to use the toilet. Save us the unpleasant view of your nonsense! It is not fair! I have been holding this in for years, especially at work! *hian* I thought I escaped this nonsense when I left boarding house, apparently not. Only difference is this time it isn’t on the floor.
#3 How is married life?
People keep asking me how married life is. I keep wondering how to answer other than it is great and I thank God. Two things come to mind now when I think about being married. The first is the fact that when I look at my phone, there aren’t as many text messages to him as I would have sent when we are dating because I will see him at home.. and going back home to him everyday is the most amazing highlight of it all. The second is, I have just been at peace, if I can call it that. I feel so calm. My friend keeps saying I have changed and she thought I would be raving on and on about being married this and that. The fact is I am so happy in my calm state that I don’t even want to ruffle anything. LOL. I am so happy and at peace that I actually forgot my blackberry at home on sunday and didn’t see my messages or use it till 4pm. Even DT was like ‘ki la ri’ (meaning – what are we seeing – meaning.. what is going on here). For someone who is always on her phone bbming one person or the other… I am basically an addict.. but.. i didn’t miss it. The only downside to forgetting my phone was I wasn’t able to say happy birthday to my darling friend, Dedun, on time. So my dearest ratus, you know I love you… happy belated birthday.
#4 Sexual equality or just being polite?
I know we women have fought to be seen as equal as men, which so far has been a great achievement, however, this is still not the case everywhere. Anyway this is not the point I am trying to make. My point is this. Some men are not so happy that women want to be treated as equals that they will gladly push you out of their way when trying to get off or on a train or if you are on their way. After all, they wouldn’t think twice to do it to a guy, and we are not equals with them. I have a friend, a guy, who was with his girlfriend and they were about to enter a shop, however, this man was about to come out of the shop. Seeing my friend’s girlfriend, he steps aside to let her go through. Her boyfriend, who is my friend, pushed past and went in before his girlfriend. As we are now equal, the man who stood aside for his girlfriend to go in first was also stepping aside for him to go in first. Some may say what is the big deal… it isn’t a big deal I agree… but it is just been polite. Yes we are equal, but we still like men opening the doors for us, and giving up their seats on a crowded train for us and all of those luxuries we enjoyed when we were not seen as equals… is that too much to ask for?
#5 On the wedding day, I forgot to cover my face with the veil… until I was half way down the aisle, then I discreetly got my dad to cover my face for me. Luckily.. lol DT didn’t look back so he didn’t see me unveiled :D. #phew!
That’s all for now… until next time..